How would you care for a friend in this situation?
Give yourself the care you would offer a friend.
You often don’t give yourself the care you truly need. Anytime you notice this, ask yourself:
🤔 How would I care for a friend in this situation?
Then look after yourself the way you would look after them.
We don’t always take proper care of ourselves. We skip meals or reach for junk food. We put off sleep, neglect exercise, and speak harshly to ourselves. Sometimes we push through exhaustion, expecting to keep going without pause or kindness. This can happen when stress, busy schedules, or even a sense of not deserving care make it hard to prioritize your own needs. Often, we don’t realize how much this compromises our well-being until problems arise, like diminished energy, poorer health, difficulty handling stress, and increased feelings of anxiety or overwhelm.
If we were looking after a friend, we’d treat them with thoughtful care. We’d ensure they eat nourishing meals, get enough sleep, and take time to exercise and rest. We wouldn’t judge them harshly; instead, we’d offer kindness and support to help them manage stress and feel emotionally supported. This care helps them feel more energetic, healthier, more balanced, and better able to handle life’s challenges.
Caring for yourself is like tending a garden: you provide water, nourish the soil, and ensure it receives enough sunlight to thrive.
When you notice you’re not taking good care of yourself, remind yourself it is not selfish to nurture your needs, as it’s what helps you keep showing up for what matters. Offer yourself the same care you would a friend. Eat nourishing foods. Get enough sleep. Rest when you’re tired. Speak to yourself with the kindness and understanding you’d show someone you value deeply. Caring for yourself is a gradual practice, and every small step makes a difference. If necessary, seek support from others, you don’t have to do it alone. Over time, this practice strengthens your well-being and helps you stay balanced and face life’s challenges with greater ease.
The next time you realize you’re neglecting yourself, pause and ask:
🤔 How would I care for a friend in this situation?
Then offer yourself that same care and kindness.
